Thursday, April 18, 2013

I'm Not Perfect And It's Okay by Dolores Ayotte

A Baker's Dozen
Thirteen Steps to a Happier Self 

“My recipe for life consists of a little bit of this and a little bit of that borne from my life experiences.  Usually, when I use all of the ingredients and steps…I end up with a pretty good product.  Sometimes…I can still fail.  It is this failure to succeed all of the time that helps remind me of my humanity and the fact that I am not perfect and it’s okay.”


Chapter 1 ~ The Greatest Of These Is Love

The only solution was to go as far back in my memory bank that I could and get to the root of the problem. That’s exactly what I did. I had to start with the ABC’s of my original instruction and go from there. Once I did this, I understood myself a whole lot better. Once I understood myself better, I also had more understanding for human nature period. I just had to start with the human I needed to know better, namely, myself.

I have come to the conclusion that it is from this well of understanding that we find empathy and compassion for the world around us. Our own world is a microcosm of the whole world. If we cannot find peace in this small world where we live, there will never be world peace. How can we expect such a thing if we cannot make it work on such a small scale?

So let's get back to looking in the mirror. If you don’t like yourself, ask yourself why. If the reason is because of the way that you were taught, acknowledge and embrace that fact. However, there can be many reasons for not liking ourselves. Possibly we lack education and feel inadequate. We can feel inferior for a number of reasons, including a poor self-image due to body weight, shape, or size. Sometimes we don’t feel smart enough, regardless of our education. Some of us may feel that we have been born on the wrong side of the tracks, while others may feel that their skin is the wrong color or they are lesser because of their sex. Others may not be proud of their heritage or their own personal backgrounds and family history.

If a person has nagging feelings of inferiority that affect his/her quality of life, that person is the only one that can answer the questions about what is causing their own personal situation. In most instances, the remedy or solution to the problem can be the same, because in the end, the goal is to overcome the feelings of inferiority or inadequacy by developing better life coping skills. After you have done this, though, there is plenty of work to be done. This is not about blame, but more about understanding ourselves. Remember, the better we understand ourselves and accept ourselves for what we are, the more we will understand and accept others for who they are. One very important fact to remember is that in most instances, our parents, educators, and mentors actually taught us the very things that they were taught and in much the same way. Education is a process that evolves and slowly changes with time. The key to life and what love is all about lies in accepting this. Education comes in a variety of forms. Not all education is formal, but we are constantly on the learning curve by observing, learning, and being influenced by others.

Love really is very simple. In fact, it needs no words or language at all. It can be a special feeling, look, touch, or act of charity, humility, or generosity. God lives in each and every one of us. God is perfect love. If you strive for perfect love, you will learn to see the face of God in your spouse, your children, and your fellow human. This should be our goal as humankind. If and when we do this, a lot of our problems will be solved. However, charity really does begin at home, so once again start with the face in the mirror. I encourage everyone to go have a really good look at yourself. Look right into your own eyes and into the depth of your own soul. It’s not as easy as you think!
Learn to love yourself as you are…that’s the first step. 

About The Author

Dolores holds a Bachelor of Arts degree with a major in psychology as well as teacher certification in Manitoba, Canada.  She has taken courses in human relations and communication.

Upon completion of the Education 1A program at the University of Manitoba, she became a primary school teacher. During her teaching career Dolores furthered her education by completing her Bachelor of Arts degree with a major in psychology from the University of Winnipeg.

After leaving her teaching career, she became a bank employee for a major financial institution for a number of years. In her earlier years, she volunteered her time by teaching Christian education, tutoring, working in the school library, and belonging to the ladies church group.
Upon moving to Pine Falls, Manitoba due to her husband's career change, Dolores assisted at Wings of Power and worked on the women’s auxiliary at the local hospital. She also served on the Hospital Foundation Board. 

She is now retired and spends half the year with her husband in a retirement community in Arizona.  For the remainder of the year, Dolores enjoys her children and grandchildren in Winnipeg, Manitoba where she was born and raised. She continues to learn from all the people who touch her life. 

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Dolores Ayotte is giving away a copy of I'm Not Perfect And It's OkayTo be entered in the giveaway, leave a comment along with your e-mail address. You can enter the book giveaway twice--once on each spotlight post for the author. Please note: The giveaway is for U.S. addresses only.


Dolores Ayotte said...

I am honored to be a guest today and tomorrow at The Barn Door Loft. I truly appreciate this opportunity. God bless you!

Sharon A. Lavy said...

We are glad to have you here!

apple blossom said...

love this book cover. would love to win a copy sounds like a much needed inspirational book thanks

ABreading4fun [at] gmail [dot] com

Library Lady said...

I would love to win a copy of this book for my church library.
Thanks for the chance to do so.
Janet E.

Dolores Ayotte said...

Thank you for leaving a comment...good luck in the draw! :)

Merry said...

Thanks for the peek at Delores' book. We can all learn to live happier lives. Please add me!
worthy2bpraised at gmail dot com

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