Sunday, January 23, 2011

with Jim Wysong

Today's interview is special because Jim is my husband. We've been married for over 20 years and what Jim wrote in this book has changed our lives. This interview is about his book, not us, but I did throw in a few extra questions. :-)

Jim has a special promotion going so be sure to look for it at the bottom of this post, and he's giving away a book here, too.

And now I'd like to introduce you to my husband, Jim Wysong. (Isn't he distinguished looking?! Wowzers but I love that man!) Oh, and beware, I sprinkled my two cents in there too. hehe.

Welcome to the Book Loft, Hon! I'm so excited that this day has finally come after all the work you've put in on this project!
Why don't you tell us a little about your family.

My wife Patty and I have five children, three boys and two girls. We
have enjoyed our children in every stage of life, from the infant, two/three year old, all the way through and including the teenage years. They are great. I love them all very much. Their ages range from just turned 18 to 9 years old. Our two oldest started college last semester and the other three are home--Patty has been home schooling them from the beginning.

LoL, Jim almost thought this was a trick question, but the kids are so much a part of him and his life I couldn't leave this one out. He's one of the best dads I've ever seen.

What prompted you to write this book?
I was talking with a friend of mine about some of the things that men face and things that trip up so many men and women. What affects one sex affects the other, whether we like if or not. As Mandy Pratt and I talked, she told me several times that I really needed to write a book about it. After giving it some thought, I began writing my thoughts, a couple of pages here and there, then brought them together for this book.

That's the simplified version. He would fill his 8' whiteboard with notes, thoughts, diagrams, and ideas, then we'd take pictures of it so he could erase it and fill it again. Some of those things he copied onto loooooong sheets of freezer wrapping paper so he could see how everything connected to each other. It amazed me! And still does!

“JimTell us a little about how it was writing your first book.
The first book is always the most difficult to write, prior to having completed your first one, it is something you have never done, which carries with it the feeling of “do I have it in me?” Once the first one is done, you now KNOW it is something you can do.

I have had fun writing this book, that being said, it was hard work at times too. The thing that turns my crank, is that a person I have never met, can benefit from what is contained within.

What I like about the characters in this book is that they are real (not the names of course), like everyone they have some challenges. But they, like each of us have far more potential than we realize. It is exciting to see a person when they finally grasp a glimpse of their potential and run with it. People can do so much more than they have been taught to believe they can do. So can you!

One thing about my man: helping people is embedded deep within him.

What is your most difficult writing obstacle, and how do you overcome it?
Staying at it. It is so easy to get distracted when writing the book. I have used this quote from Keith Cunningham to keep me on task. “Get in line and stay in line.” Find out what works for you. Some like music, others need it quiet. Study yourself to find what helps get you into your zone.

I find that what I have been doing before I sit down to write has an affect on how smooth it flows.

Are there things you put off doing because you dread them?
Yes, there are things that I occasionally put off (not intentionally though) Once I realize what is happening, it is much easier to get myself in gear and do it.

What would a perfect day for you look like?
Not sure! I think so often we come up with a dream day for this kind of question as in everything goes my way day. In all honesty, I think that any day we learn and grow (which is always our choice) is a good day. I have never had a perfect day, but I sure have had a lot of good days. How is your day going today?

This cracked me up because it is SO Jim. But let me also say, he's been married to me long enough that he loves palm trees and almost any day would be better if it included them. ;-)

Tell us the range of the kinds of books you enjoy reading.
I don't read much fiction. I like books that force you to think a little at the very least. Questions are at the heart of learning. In fact, it is impossible to learn something without a question coming into the equation somewhere in the process.

Jim and I are extreme opposites. I like romances, he like deep thinking books. And he reads them with highlighters! *shiver* I get the boiled down version of many books, which is good, otherwise I'd never know about them.

Are there certain foods or snacks keeps the words flowing for you?
I do not eat while writing, it is too distracting.

LoL—he really doesn't eat while he's writing! So I munch enough for both of us! =)

What lesson has the Lord recently taught you?
The things I focus on in my mind will either strengthen my faith and confidence in Him, or it will erode it.

When is your next book due out and can you tell us about it?
I have three books that are currently in the works, Building Blocks to Change, Mentoring into Manhood and one that addresses how what I explore within NAM has affected and is affecting the American Church today.

How has writing The Neutering of the American Male changed your life?
Prior to writing this book much of what is in it I knew but had not worked to refine it to the extent it is within the book. Working to bring it all together, and see how all of these elements work out in the lives of men and women was very rewarding. Not just in respect to having a book completed, but also that it has given each of us in my family the keys to make changes that we had tried to make for many years before.

It is easier for people to see how God was working in the lives of people who are in the Bible, but much more difficult for us to see how He is working things out in our own lives. There have been many things in my life that I did not understand why God said OK for them to happen. Looking back on them now, I can see clearly that if I had not gone through them, I would not have been able to write this book.

When you're not writing, what are some of the things you do?
I love being with and doing things with my wife Patty and our family. I have always loved building things and still do. I like variety. I enjoy being with my sons, teaching them how to be men that have a strong foundation in their God and in themselves. I thoroughly enjoy being with my daughters, they are wonderful and add a great dynamic to our family.

In the course of my life I have realized that I am indeed on a journey that does not have to be endured, but rather can be enjoyed. There is a question on my white board it reads like this: “How do I want to play the second half?” I find that inspiring!

So how about it? How are you going to play out the balance of your journey?

Thanks for being with us here at the Book Loft, Hon. It was a treat getting to interview you. :-)
Jim is giving away a copy of The Neutering of the American Male. To be entered in the book giveaway, leave a comment. You can enter the book giveaway twice--once on each spotlight post.

Reviews from the Heart gave The Neutering of the American Male
5 stars. Check it out her review here.

Anyone who buys The Neutering of the American Male here or through Jim's website will receive a FREE Personality Temperament Assessment which correlates with the information in the book and FREE shipping.


Joanne Sher said...

What an AWESOME interview. Jim's an awesome guy, of course - (and don't tell him, but I like his lovely wife better) and this book is fabulous. Patty, you must have had SUCH fun doing this.

Elaine Cooper said...

Thanks for sharing your husband's book, Patty! Would love to win it!

Anonymous said...

I already have Jim's book, and it's a great read! So glad to know he's got more books in the works. Very good


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